A few months ago I was contacted by the husband of a hotwife/QoS from Southern California through our Tumblr blog. He added a face pic of his wife and said that she would love to featured here on Spades Mag. I was intrigued by the pic because she was definitely a hottie. It wasn't until I actually clicked onto their Tumblr blog that I realized I had come across one of those rare amazing hotwives that makes your jaw drop and makes you realize all over again why you love this lifestyle.
It is my pleasure to present to all of my wonderful readers one of the hottest hotwife/QoS that I have EVER laid my eyes on - SecretPlayWife. When you are done reading the interview and checking out her amazing pics, head over to her Tumblr blog - SecretPlayWife.tumblr.com - and check out all of her amazing content. Be sure to let her and hubby know that you saw her on Spades Mag.
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". . . . sex with a black man evokes a raw sexuality that makes me come easier."
Spades Mag: Hi SecretPlayWife. Tell us all about you.
SecretPlayWife: I’m a Southern California wife who decided to dabble as a hotwife. After my husband posted photos of my early encounters and my world didn’t implode, I stopped dabbling and took up hotwifing as a fun hobby. I don’t make any money at it; I don’t sell anything, I don’t have a paid site. I simply use Tumblr and Flickr as places to post my pics and find guys in or near the Inland Empire who want to meet me. At first I kept my face secret. Hence the pseudonym. Now I keep the men’s identity secret, because they aren’t porn stars, they’re regular guys.
SM: Do you have a boyfriend/husband? How does he feel you being in the lifestyle?
SPW: I’m happily married. We’re now empty nesters. He is excited by my having sex with black men. He’s straight, and almost always watches me have sex. We’re closer than ever.
SM: How long have you been in the lifestyle? What drew you to it?
SPW: Well Drew, I’m glad you asked. I’ve been a hotwife for a little over two years. I was a traditional monogamous wife. How it got started was that as I got older, I wondered if I was still attractive. My husband kept saying how sexy I was and I knew he was telling the truth; I was sexy to him. That doesn’t mean I’m objectively sexy. Lol. I figured he was biased. He told me I would be sexy to most any virile man, but I didn’t believe him. He introduced me to photos of wives posing nude, posted by their husbands, and said it was hot and that he was turned on by the idea of posting me nude. When I finally agreed it was with the caveat that nothing identifying could be shown. Then he told me lots of husbands like to watch their wives have sex with other men. I was accustomed to the tradition of jealous spouses. I was also jealous of other women and didn’t want him using my having sex with others as an excuse to ask permission for himself. Over time, he convinced me he wasn’t interested in other women and he showed me how many men online have the same fantasy. Finally I said yes, hesitantly, but it went great, we both had fun, and it’s become our regular hobby.
SM: Have you always been attracted to Black men or is that something that developed later?
SPW: I like all men. I played with men of all races. But over time, for various reasons, I migrated more and more to black men. Finally I decided to play exclusively with black men.
SM: What drew you to Black men? Why do you like making love to Black men?
SPW: I find the difference in skin tone exciting. And sex with a black man evokes a raw sexuality that makes me come easier. I don’t consider myself a size queen, I’m more a talent queen. Making a woman orgasm during sex takes experience and know-how. Most of the black men I’ve met have talent and a lot have size as a plus.
SM: How did your first Black experience come about and did your taste of interracial passion live up to what you were hoping for?
SPW: I was neutral about race and looked for attractive men who were good communicators. I played with all races. Once I was having sex somewhat regularly as a hotwife, I found the men who were most comfortable and experienced with that situation were often black men. That in turn made me more comfortable and I enjoyed it even more.
". . . . I wear a spade necklace every day. It’s worked. I’ve actually met black men who stared at the necklace with a grin and that gave me a conversational opening. Yes, we had sex soon thereafter."
SM: How has your IR sex life progressed since that 1st Black experience? Any regular Black lovers?
SPW: One of the earliest black lovers I played with after embracing the hotwife lifestyle opened a door that I didn’t know existed. He made me squirt. I didn’t know I could do that. I didn’t even recognize what it was when it was happening. I’d had clitoral orgasms my entire life, but rarely during sex. He did it with his fingers after pulling out of me. Then a short while later, another black lover with a curved cock was fast pounding me and…wow, I exploded, squirting all over his groin. He was thrilled. My husband had never made me squirt, so he filmed the technique and pretty soon he learned to do it as well.
SM: Who do you prefer to sleep with? Your husband or your Black lovers? Who do you sleep with more? Your Husband or your Black lovers?
SPW: As you’ve seen Drew, I love and adore my husband, and he loves and adores me. We make love, and we also have sex. With the men I play with as a hotwife, it’s pure – raw – animal sex! It’s damn fun to be sure, but it’s not making love. Some men like the cuckold lifestyle wherein they are denied access to the wife, but that’s not for us. He simply enjoys my being his live porn star and I enjoy performing, as well as orgasming, for him and for my Tumblr and Flickr fans.
SM: What's your favorite way to pleasure BBC or be pleasured by them? Do you prefer one or groups?
SPW: Groups! I enjoy groups. Most BBCs I play with are solo, so it’s a treat when it’s two or more. There’s an objectification that takes place. I’m not about humiliation or B&D so there’s a line that doesn’t get crossed, but I do enjoy being an object of lust for the pleasure of multiple men. I get into a mental zone where it’s all about the feeling and smells and pleasures. Man after man rotating to my various holes, using me as they see fit. I love it when the action takes off and I lose track of who’s fucking me while my face is in another BBC’s crotch. I love DPs and being airtight.
SM: Are you strictly for BBC or you date and sleep with other races?
SPW: For a while I trended towards BBC but still dated all races if the man was attractive. Now I have enough offers from BBCs that I simply decline all but black men. I don’t want to imply anyone is better, it’s simply a personal preference on my part and it’s worked well in terms of everyone getting what they want from the situation; the guest(s), my husband, and me.
SM: What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?
SPW: Ohhh, that’s a tough call. By kinky, we’re not into pain or bondage, so I’ll describe my three most sexually-hot encounters. After getting comfortable with various men having sex with me, I went to a club that hosts a gangbang night once a month. My first time was crazy. Multiple men I’d never met put on condoms and, one after another, came in me. “Honey, was it sixteen or was it twenty guys?” I completely lost track. Another time my husband and I had several BBCs over to our place and three of them made me airtight. After I began orgasming, the men in my mouth and anus pulled out and two other BBC bystanders slid their cocks in and made me come again. And again! I never imagined I could come so many times in one night. The third was a time when a follower had me go to a motel, enter and blindfold myself, then he came in and fucked me and left without my ever taking off the blindfold. I never saw what he looked like before or after.
SM: Are you a size queen? What's the biggest cock you have had? What is the perfect size cock for you?
SPW: I don’t go to clubs very often because usually those cater to swingers, whereas hotwifing is a different vibe. But one night at a club, I hit the jackpot. I played with a very BBC, of 11 inches. On another occasion, a 10.5” guy came over to my house and challenged me to deep throat him. I did. My husband’s jaw dropped. I was never a deep throat specialist, gagged easily, and since my husband is modest-to-average I didn’t need to learn. One of the BBCs I played with insisted I try. He kept insisting I do it over and over. He was perhaps 7 or 8 inches and it was a challenge. Since then I’ve practiced and although not perfect, I insist on squishing my nose against the stomach of every BBC I meet with his cock skewering my throat. As for sex, BBCs that are huge make for good photos and are fun, but I orgasm most easily on an 8” to 9” cock with a slight upward curve, assuming they know where to pound inside me and have the athleticism to keep pumping fast. I will come buckets on that cock.
"I want a multiple BBC Viagra gangbang in which all the men are rock hard and stay hard and use me until I pass out after they’ve cum in and on me multiple times."
SM: What do you want to do most in the lifestyle that you haven't done yet? Is that your biggest sexual fantasy? and if not, what is your biggest sexual fantasy?
SPW: I want a multiple BBC Viagra gangbang in which all the men are rock hard and stay hard and use me until I pass out after they’ve cum in and on me multiple times. I’ve had close to that, but going to a hotel or house where that’s prearranged sounds exciting. Can you or your readers help with that Drew?
SM: Are you into anal?
SPW: Absolutely, I love anal, but only in certain circumstances. Most of my sexual encounters are oral and vaginal, no anal. But when there’s multiple BBCs, the raw sexuality triggers something in my brain and I want to feel a DP. Recently after being DP’d three times at a home gangbang, one of the BBCs got hard again and pounded my ass until I squirted. I’d never squirted from anal before.
"With the men I play with as a hotwife, it’s pure – raw – animal sex!"
SM: Swallow or spit?
SPW: Oh I swallow. Every time. However, I find most men also want to fuck me, so oral is a lengthy warm-up but rarely a finale. They may plan to pull out and cum on me or in my mouth, but I find in the heat of the moment they often get carried away and come inside me.
SM: Do you have a Queen of Spades tattoo? If not would you get one to show your love for BBC?
SPW: You know, Drew, I’ve considered it. But being a hotwife is a hobby rather than how I make my living. I have a regular job and regular life and family, none of whom know anything about my and my husband’s adventures. I need some plausible deniability, lol, and so instead of a tattoo I wear a spade necklace every day. It’s worked. I’ve actually met black men who stared at the necklace with a grin and that gave me a conversational opening. Yes, we had sex soon thereafter. Sometimes my husband applies a temporary QOS tattoo, which, unlike a permanent tattoo, we apply somewhere very visible on me knowing we’re going to be in a target-rich environment. :)
SM: Do any of your family or friends know about your involvement in the lifestyle or your love for BBC? If not how do you think they would react?
SPW: A few close friends know, but most don’t—my family not at all. I don’t even want to contemplate their reaction. I hope they would be accepting, or at least be respectful.
SM: What turns you on? Turn offs? What do you look for in a guy?
SPW: Hard black cocks turn me on. Flakes turn me off. I get rude guys, nice guys, guys that are seriously trying to meet with me and guys who are pretending because the fantasy gets them off. I don’t let them bother me, but what I very much do mind are guys who absolutely confirm their intention to meet at a place and time and then don’t show up. It takes a lot of arranging and scheduling to make evenings happen and I don’t like being stood up.
SM: Are you bisexual?
SPW: I’m not at all bi. I know lots of women are, and that works for them, but I’m entirely straight. This makes traditional swing clubs awkward for me.
SM: In case they are reading this blog, do you have a celebrity crush?
SPW: The guys from the Devil’s Gangbang Series please!! I know they have young starlets to pick from, but I can dream, right? Surprisingly, I’ve been sought out by a few people whose names would be recognizable. I know I’m just an ordinary wife, on the mature side, and a bbw at that, so it blew my mind that they were interested in me. But they apparently like the absolute discretion my husband and I exercise in not revealing my lover’s identities, not creating drama, not being clingy, and just being fun. Hopefully word spreads and some more of the awesome rappers and athletes out there hit me up. Xoxo
". . . . another black lover with a curved cock was fast pounding me and…wow, I exploded, squirting all over his groin. He was thrilled. My husband had never made me squirt, so he filmed the technique and pretty soon he learned to do it as well."
SM: A lot of hotwives/Queen of Spades are getting into making their own adult movies. Is that something you would ever do?
SPW: I’ve reached a point where I’m comfortable with my choice of being a hotwife and would likely be willing to make movies were I years younger. But as an empty nester, I can’t compare to some of the stunning wives who are featured on your blog and don’t seriously think anyone would pay for movies of me. :)
SM: Thanks for agreeing to this interview, SecretPlayWife. Where can someone keep up with you and get in contact with you?
"Hard black cocks turn me on."